What do we do now:
Most of you who have spoke up in recent weeks have expressed thoughts along the lines of: “what do I do now?” “how can I better understand different perspectives?” and “the holidays are going to be fucking terrible.”
If there is one thing we’ve learned, it’s that securing your own point of view is important. As someone who has been non-confrontational (read: passive agressive) her whole life, I can no longer keep the knowledge and perspectives I’ve experienced to myself. If there is anything this election has taught us it’s that we can’t afford to not speak up.
So what do you believe in? We’ve found a simple but difficult exercise to help us explicitly define just that. The goal is to bring some extra awareness to your core values so we can form a vocabulary around them. This will come in handy when having Very Difficult Conversations.
You’ll need these: http://inkfeet.in/valuescards
It is strongly suggested that you complete each step before reading ahead to the next.
1. Organize each of the values in the .pdf (you can add some of your own, too) into three categories: “Very Important to me,” “Important to me,” and “Not Important to me.”
Review your choices and make sure everything seems right to you.
Note: you can print and cut the cards out to work in physical space or just use them as a guide and work digitally. Whatever is easiest.
When you finish this, go on to part two.
2.Take the values listed in “Important to me,” and “Not Important to me.” and move them aside. Repeat the first exercise for only the cards listed in “Very Important to me,”...sorting them into the three categories.
If you’re thinking “shit”–you’re doing it right. When everything looks about right to you, go to step three.
3. Yep. We’re doing it again. Take the values listed in “Important to me,” and “Not Important to me.” and move them aside. Repeat the exercise for the cards listed in “Very Important to me.”
(Basically, keep doing this until you only have 5 values in the “Very Important to me,” column.)
4.Record and date your values. We’ll come back to them.
Let's see where this takes us.